Every significant life change that I’ve experienced was born out of tension, pain, and doubt from a dilemma — about marriage, kids, career, my health, the future and even about God.     I don’t know about you, but I don’t like dilemmas. I don’t like paradox. They’re confusing. Unclear. I feel like I’m … Continued

  THE BROKEN STATE OF MASCULINITY   More and more boys are confused about what it means to be a man as they are raised without a man consistently in their lives.  Those with fathers or father-figures present too frequently experience uninvolved, emotionally-absent men or tyrant, dictator fathers whom they never want to emulate.   … Continued

  Remember Hermey the Elf, from the Rank & Bass stop-motion classic Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer?   He’s a misfit who doesn’t want to make toys. He wants to be a dentist. He also declares to Rudolph that he wants to be independent.   One recent week in my life – I was told … Continued

  My wife is my best friend and has a beautiful heart, so when she asked me to help with a women’s conference, I said, “yes”. Honestly, I said it with regret. Hanging out at a women’s conference was not my idea of “fun”, but I showed up.   So, did God. Here’s what I … Continued