In October of 1995, there was a bit of a problem between a U.S. naval ship and Canadian authorities off the coast of Newfoundland. I came across this actual transcript of a radio conversation: U.S. ship—“Please divert your course .5 degrees to the south to avoid a collision.” Canadian reply—“Recommend you divert your course … Continued

  The calm before the storm. That was the half-hour after supper on most weekdays in the home in which I grew up. Despite my mother’s daily pleas as my father left for work in the morning, Dad did not come straight home after work to have supper with his family. Instead, more often than … Continued

  There are three rules in dysfunctional family systems: 1. Don’t talk. 2. Don’t trust. 3. Don’t feel. We learn at an early age not to talk about family problems. We keep them to ourselves either because we are embarrassed about what’s going on or because we’re convinced no one could possibly relate. So we … Continued

  I’m just going to come right out and say it. I think sex is one of God’s greatest ideas. On my list of all-time favorite activities, having sex is number one by such a wide margin that you’d scroll down quite a ways to find the runners-up: Watching baseball, eating pizza, and going to Disney … Continued

  Editor’s note: The following post is an excerpt from Dan’s book, When Father is a Bad Word   Father. For some, that is a word that conjures up feelings of warmth, security, and pride. For all too many others it is a word that triggers shame, pain, and anger. I have known first-hand the pain … Continued

Brett and I had the same work schedule. That means we also had the same workout schedule. Several times a week we ran into each other at the health club. We did the typical guy-talk thing. You know—news, weather, and sports. Nothing that would require too much vulnerability. We men don’t readily bare our souls … Continued

  Every one of us has fears. Some of us are just afraid to admit it. It could be a physical fear, like the fear of heights, snakes, or spiders. It could be a psychological fear, like the fear of failure, rejection, or intimacy. But, if we’re honest, we all encounter things in our lives … Continued

I grew up in a home compromised by alcohol. Personal security was continually threatened. Our family never knew from one day to the next just what level of risk to expect when Dad came through the door. There were those “high alert” days when Dad stayed too long at Alex’s Tap after work. On those … Continued

  Editor’s note: This blog entry is an excerpt from Dan Kuiper’s book, When Father is a Bad Word   The story is told about Frank Szymanski, a center for the Notre Dame football team, who in the 1940s was called as a witness in a civil suit in South Bend. “Are you on the Notre Dame … Continued

  Have you ever heard someone use a phrase that immediately made you think of a song? It happened to me the other day in church.   The pastor was reading from the book of Ecclesiastes. The instant he began with the words, for everything there is a season, I began singing along with the … Continued