When I was a toddler, my mother taught me a little bedtime prayer: Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake I pray the Lord my soul to take. I’m still not sure what it was about the thought of dying in the middle … Continued

Finding My Father’s Love It was the summer of 1987. My personal life was clicking on all cylinders. Happily married. Two healthy kids with one on the way. A nice house. A successful business. I appeared to have my spiritual life in order. I read my Bible. Prayed. Did morning devotions. Had my family in … Continued

I remember feeling my heart sink when I saw him come through the door. My wife and I were at a Christmas gathering at our church. My brother spotted me and made his way to our table. He didn’t have to say anything. I knew what had happened by the look on his face. My … Continued

  In October of 1995, there was a bit of a problem between a U.S. naval ship and Canadian authorities off the coast of Newfoundland. I came across this actual transcript of a radio conversation: U.S. ship—“Please divert your course .5 degrees to the south to avoid a collision.” Canadian reply—“Recommend you divert your course … Continued

  The calm before the storm. That was the half-hour after supper on most weekdays in the home in which I grew up. Despite my mother’s daily pleas as my father left for work in the morning, Dad did not come straight home after work to have supper with his family. Instead, more often than … Continued

  There are three rules in dysfunctional family systems: 1. Don’t talk. 2. Don’t trust. 3. Don’t feel. We learn at an early age not to talk about family problems. We keep them to ourselves either because we are embarrassed about what’s going on or because we’re convinced no one could possibly relate. So we … Continued

  I’m just going to come right out and say it. I think sex is one of God’s greatest ideas. On my list of all-time favorite activities, having sex is number one by such a wide margin that you’d scroll down quite a ways to find the runners-up: Watching baseball, eating pizza, and going to Disney … Continued

  Editor’s note: The following post is an excerpt from Dan’s book, When Father is a Bad Word   Father. For some, that is a word that conjures up feelings of warmth, security, and pride. For all too many others it is a word that triggers shame, pain, and anger. I have known first-hand the pain … Continued

Brett and I had the same work schedule. That means we also had the same workout schedule. Several times a week we ran into each other at the health club. We did the typical guy-talk thing. You know—news, weather, and sports. Nothing that would require too much vulnerability. We men don’t readily bare our souls … Continued

  Every one of us has fears. Some of us are just afraid to admit it. It could be a physical fear, like the fear of heights, snakes, or spiders. It could be a psychological fear, like the fear of failure, rejection, or intimacy. But, if we’re honest, we all encounter things in our lives … Continued