Most of us were taught from a young age that it’s good to be responsible. At its core, being responsible means that you are accountable for your actions. In other words, you’re in control of how you act and behave.   Outside My Control Now obviously, there are sometimes external events that happen which are … Continued

We have all heard the serenity prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Being able to differentiate between the things that are up to us and the things that are not up to us is certainly … Continued

  When I was thinking about my New Years Resolutions for the coming year, I noticed something: They were all about me. For example, I looked at my list this year: Eat healthy and get in better shape. Secure a book contract. Make my blog more successful. All about me. Take a look at your … Continued

Sometimes we tend to experience a period of regression right before a period of big growth. I noticed this in my own life over the past several months. I was getting ready to get married, which was a huge deal for me. But as the wedding date neared, I found myself struggling with issues and … Continued

We often think about our lives as split up into parts, but in reality, I believe we are much more connected. I was talking with a colleague the other day, and he described a model that I thought was helpful.   He described our lives as having 4 boxes: Physical. The physical part of our lives … Continued

  “I’m fine,” I lied, as my friend asked me how I was doing. The truth was that I was struggling and holding back tears. But I didn’t tell my friend that. Instead, I gave a brief run-down about how things were going with my writing, my relationships and my church stuff. We ended the … Continued

Last month I attended the Liturgists gathering in Denver, Colorado. It was hosted by Science Mike and Michael Gungor, and it was a refreshing weekend for me spiritually — a mix of worship, listening, learning, discussion, and connecting with God. One of the most powerful aspects of the weekend for me was the encouragement by Gungor to honor all parts of … Continued

  It is easy to compare ourselves with others, which can make us feel bad. I have done this my whole life. When I played sports, I always compared myself to the guys who were better than me, and I was upset that I wasn’t as good. The same thing happened in school, dating and … Continued

Emotions are a huge part of our daily lives. Our feelings let us know we are alive, and help us to connect with others. Emotions are also important indicators of our needs. For example, if we feel angry, we might need to set a boundary or stop an injustice. If we feel scared, we might need to … Continued

I re-watched Fight Club the other day. It’s one of my favorite movies. For me, it never gets old. I also think it paints a beautiful picture of the importance of owning your own shadow. The shadow was a concept popularized by Carl Jung. The basic idea is that as we grow up, we learn … Continued