The other night, I struggled to get to sleep. I was tossing and turning, nervous about an upcoming meeting at work. I knew the meeting was likely to be contentious, and I would have to step into my discomfort and set a boundary if I was going to get what I wanted.  Hence, the struggle … Continued

I recently saw the movie “A Star Is Born” (Warning: Spoilers ahead) and it made a big impact on me. The film focuses on the relationship between two musicians: A rock star named Jackson Maine and his wife Alli, whom he discovers and encourages to pursue her talents and dreams. Tortured Soul Jackson is a … Continued

When trying to live a good life and have a positive attitude, we often reflect on our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. All three are important and have a huge impact on how we engage in our day-to-day life.  Hard to Shift Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors Sometimes our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are hard to shift. … Continued

One of my favorite movies is the Godfather. My favorite scene comes near the beginning of the film. Vito Corleone (the Godfather) is recovering in a hospital from an assassination attempt. Michael Corleone (his youngest son) goes to visit him, but when he notices the guards are missing, he realizes a second assassination attempt is … Continued

Most of us were taught from a young age that it’s good to be responsible. At its core, being responsible means that you are accountable for your actions. In other words, you’re in control of how you act and behave.   Outside My Control Now obviously, there are sometimes external events that happen which are … Continued

We have all heard the serenity prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Being able to differentiate between the things that are up to us and the things that are not up to us is certainly … Continued

  When I was thinking about my New Years Resolutions for the coming year, I noticed something: They were all about me. For example, I looked at my list this year: Eat healthy and get in better shape. Secure a book contract. Make my blog more successful. All about me. Take a look at your … Continued

Sometimes we tend to experience a period of regression right before a period of big growth. I noticed this in my own life over the past several months. I was getting ready to get married, which was a huge deal for me. But as the wedding date neared, I found myself struggling with issues and … Continued

We often think about our lives as split up into parts, but in reality, I believe we are much more connected. I was talking with a colleague the other day, and he described a model that I thought was helpful.   He described our lives as having 4 boxes: Physical. The physical part of our lives … Continued

  “I’m fine,” I lied, as my friend asked me how I was doing. The truth was that I was struggling and holding back tears. But I didn’t tell my friend that. Instead, I gave a brief run-down about how things were going with my writing, my relationships and my church stuff. We ended the … Continued