I’m sure I’m not alone in this, but with all the books out there on leadership, very little surprises me when I pick up the latest best-seller. Seems like every author just rehashes the same old formulas.   Happily I’ve been reading a book recently that actually covers some new territory. It’s not that … Continued

  I recently read about a group therapy researcher who had non-patients he was training (from a variety of helping professions) gather in groups and then complete a “top-secret” assignment. It was the same task he gave patients in his groups to perform. He asked trainees to write down on a slip of paper, anonymously, … Continued

    “It’s so frustrating. I try to help her, but she just won’t listen.”   My friend called to confide in me about a conversation he’d had with his wife earlier that day. Some drama about a problem she had with a co-worker.   “It’s the same stupid thing over and over. She’s intimidated … Continued

“I don’t get it. I’m a nice guy—I’ve got so much going for me, yet hardly any women on the dating site are responding. But the idiot who mentions his six-figure income gets 10 times the hits I get!”   My single friend was angry. He’d been divorced for years and had finally gotten the … Continued

 Years ago at about the same time, two Christian men told me they were involved in extra-marital affairs. The men did not know each other, but each came to me for counsel. There were similarities in how they were dealing with it, but I especially noted some key differences. First, here’s what they had in common: Both … Continued

On a bright, sunny summer’s day, two youth league teams were playing a baseball game. In the top of the sixth inning, one of the visiting coaches noticed something odd. “Hey, wait a minute. The balls you’re pitching to us are all different from the ones used when you are up at bat! What’s going … Continued

One of the memorable “behind the scenes” moments on every Crucible Men’s Retreat is the last staff meeting on Sunday afternoon. It’s always bittersweet because we know this wonderful event is drawing to a close and we will never all be together in that configuration again. We are glad for what we did as a … Continued

Leaders are flawed people who can do harm as well as good. We all have examples in our lives — maybe even from our own leadership — of leaders bringing both enormous benefit by what they do, as well as great embarrassment or even damage when they’ve lead poorly. All leaders must have power and trust. If those aren’t present, … Continued

Have you ever noticed that God isn’t a fan of straight lines in nature? Most objects in creation are irregular, curved, and winding. From plants to planets, rattlesnakes to rivers, grass to galaxies our world is “imperfect” geometrically speaking. There are patterns, to be sure, but things both alive and inanimate are wavy and often grow in … Continued

  We use a lot of analogies and metaphors in the work we do through The Crucible Project. Men who have attended a Crucible Men’s Weekend confess that at times they’ve been confused by what is going on. Some experiences only make sense in light of later processes, and the weekend is rich in symbolism … Continued