I have the privilege of running a ministry that is the largest provider of counseling services to sex traffic survivors in the greater Houston area. Over the years I have met many survivors we serve.  Recently, an alumni of our program popped into the office to catch up with us. As she shared her … Continued

My mission statement is: “I create environments of truth, grace and blessing to facilitate deep connection and healing.” As a part of my mission, my wife and I have helped thousands of couples in our experiential retreats and taught hundreds of pastors and counselors how to work better with couples in distress. More than four … Continued

  One of the most painful and powerful discoveries in my almost 10-year transformation journey with The Crucible Project is that I have created the world that I live in.  Anytime I experience pain or find myself doing the things I do not want to do, it is because I am making choices at some … Continued

  THE BROKEN STATE OF MASCULINITY   More and more boys are confused about what it means to be a man as they are raised without a man consistently in their lives.  Those with fathers or father-figures present too frequently experience uninvolved, emotionally-absent men or tyrant, dictator fathers whom they never want to emulate.   … Continued

One of the practices that Devra (my wife of 29 years) and I do almost every day to connect at the heart level is to “check in” with each other. Checking in with each other is a way to talk about all the things that are going on “out there” so that we can create … Continued

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I’ve had a problem for several decades around self-care. I have read several Christian and secular books, worked through materials from international coaching experts, and implemented a number of strategies to take care of myself by building Sabbath rest into my schedule. Living in my mission to facilitate change in individuals and relationships brought joy … Continued

  I love my wife of 28 years.  I want to be a great husband.  After almost three decades of marriage, I still find myself in an occasional argument with this person I want to spend the rest of my life with. But why?   Three Truths For every situation in a relationship there are … Continued

This month marks my eighth year of personal transformation with The Crucible Project community of Christian men.  Change is hard, but I can’t imagine how I could be where I am in my personal development without a community of authentic men around me.   Transformation Process Confusion In my personal journey, results have sometimes seemed … Continued

I’m eating lunch at a restaurant with a friend, enjoying the wonderful food and conversation. Out of the corner of my eye, there is something that alerts me. Sometimes it is what they are wearing … or not wearing.  Sometimes it is their gait or pace in their high-heeled shoes.  Sometimes it is something about … Continued

What does it mean to be a man? What does it mean to be a real man? When I was still a boy, I was sometimes told phrases like: Don’t be a wussy! Don’t cry! Never let them smell any fear! Be a man! Pick yourself up by your own bootstraps! Never let them see you … Continued