Editor’s Note: Last week, Walter Mendenhall wrote about his personal woundedness as a child of divorce and how The Crucible Project has been instrumental in his healing. This week, Walter writes from a child’s perspective and offers tips for families who are currently navigating divorce.   Throughout my early childhood, I witnessed the erosion of … Continued

What affected me most about my parents’ divorce and all the circumstances surrounding it were the feelings of unworthiness I suffered. Since I was a child — and well into adulthood — I have had to deal with the painful emotion, however misplaced and inaccurate, of being unworthy of love.   This led to self-sabotage … Continued

  The Male Mogul Initiative (MMI) was birthed after a conversation I had with a student on the west side of Chicago. This student was a star basketball player, had an academic scholarship to go to college, and was well-respected amongst his peers. Despite all these great things, this student sold drugs to support his … Continued

  Excerpt from Book “Don’t Be the Exception, CHANGE THE RULE!”   It was the beginning of the third quarter and I was the upback on the kickoff return team. Rarely, did the opposing team kick the ball to me. But as I saw the ball in the air, I noticed it was headed directly … Continued

Marriage can bring many changes to which you and your partner will have to adjust, especially in the first year. Some of these changes are eagerly anticipated; others are surprises that may cause unhappiness or even fear. In at least one aspect, marriage is like football. In a close game, the winning team is usually … Continued

What is our most valuable asset? Is it your house, car, or investment portfolio? What is the most valuable thing a man can possess? Intelligence, physical strength, good looks? In my discovery, I have realized that the most precious asset a man can have is Time!!!  A man cannot enjoy his home, spend his wealth … Continued

It has been two months since I asked the woman I love to marry me.  While ecstatic for this new journey in my life, being engaged has brought a new level of accountability that I did not expect.  I spent the first 30 years of my life thinking about me, myself and I.  This has … Continued

  I recently asked a woman who I deeply love to marry me. If you would have told me three years ago that I would be engaged — and who the woman would be — I would have laughed and offered a friendly wager of everything I had that this would not happen. This journey … Continued

What is the difference between choice and decision? Are they the same thing? In practice, although we often use the words interchangeably, it depends on how you define the words. While mentoring the male teens at New Life Southeast, one of my colleagues explained a transformative concept. He began to explain to the youth the … Continued