I’ve had some legitimate, real-life enemies in my life lately. I believe they are actively working against my good will. It feels like antagonistic forces that are convicted to work against me. A few of them are even church people.   Counseling experts would call these “micro-aggressions.” They’re the subtle, small, offenses against a … Continued

Conor: Your stories never made sense to me. The Monster: Because humans are complicated beasts. You believe comforting lies, while knowing full well the painful truth that makes those lies necessary. In the end, Conor, it is not important what you think. It is only important what you do. Conor: So what do I do? … Continued

  I have my fair share of problems: Finances are really tight. I just spent a lot of money on a new patio. And now my air conditioner is out. Family life seems scattered more than it does sacred. I don’t get to see my kids as much as I’d like. And when I do, … Continued

Clueless and don’t even know it. That is how I describe the condition of my soul 14 years ago. As a pastor, I wanted to be able to help people grow spiritually. However, I wasn’t fully sure what that was supposed to look like; much less how to get there. I grew up in a … Continued

  I’d like to share with you a way of thinking “blocks” and “problems” that has given me great peace, even during difficult times in my life.  I think you’ll benefit from this way of thinking, too.   It all started one day while I was talking to my friend Ellen. I mentioned to her … Continued

Sometimes we tend to experience a period of regression right before a period of big growth. I noticed this in my own life over the past several months. I was getting ready to get married, which was a huge deal for me. But as the wedding date neared, I found myself struggling with issues and … Continued

  I believe it is just human nature to want to fix someone’s problems.  I also believe that we are compelled to “fix” from a noble consideration of helping someone.  However, in our endeavor to help someone, we have lost a key component that is valuable to those we are helping.  The component is an … Continued

Marriage can bring many changes to which you and your partner will have to adjust, especially in the first year. Some of these changes are eagerly anticipated; others are surprises that may cause unhappiness or even fear. In at least one aspect, marriage is like football. In a close game, the winning team is usually … Continued

  I’m just going to come right out and say it. I think sex is one of God’s greatest ideas. On my list of all-time favorite activities, having sex is number one by such a wide margin that you’d scroll down quite a ways to find the runners-up: Watching baseball, eating pizza, and going to Disney … Continued

“I don’t get it. I’m a nice guy—I’ve got so much going for me, yet hardly any women on the dating site are responding. But the idiot who mentions his six-figure income gets 10 times the hits I get!”   My single friend was angry. He’d been divorced for years and had finally gotten the … Continued