I’m just going to come right out and say it. I think sex is one of God’s greatest ideas. On my list of all-time favorite activities, having sex is number one by such a wide margin that you’d scroll down quite a ways to find the runners-up: Watching baseball, eating pizza, and going to Disney … Continued

“I don’t get it. I’m a nice guy—I’ve got so much going for me, yet hardly any women on the dating site are responding. But the idiot who mentions his six-figure income gets 10 times the hits I get!”   My single friend was angry. He’d been divorced for years and had finally gotten the … Continued

My grandma and I have a bond I cannot describe. Since I was young I can remember feeling happiness, joy and excitement when I got to go to her house. As I grew, not too much changed. Whether it be making chicken and dumplings from scratch or just having her catch me up on the … Continued

    Crucible brother Roy Wooten really convicted me last week when he wrote about the shame he used to carry when he pursued self-care. If you haven’t read his post, I recommend it.   I want to build upon what Roy started and invite you to give yourself the gift of a Replenishment Cycle … Continued



I’ve had a problem for several decades around self-care. I have read several Christian and secular books, worked through materials from international coaching experts, and implemented a number of strategies to take care of myself by building Sabbath rest into my schedule. Living in my mission to facilitate change in individuals and relationships brought joy … Continued

  At the end of the day, at the end of your life, will you be satisfied knowing that you completed your mission?  You have one whether you’ve written it down or not.   If you have written one down already, maybe it’s time to refine it.  Businesses have mission statements. Churches, schools, and other organizations … Continued

  “I am a needy man.” I’ve fought against that truth most of my adult life. Little boys (and girls) realize that they are needy. When I was a little boy, the expression of my neediness was raw and unfiltered. Back then, the style of expressing neediness was crying or yelling. Then I learned how … Continued

I’ve been traumatized. I’d like to say it’s over. I’d like to say that I’m healed. I THINK I’d even like to say that I remember it. But it’s not over. I’m not healed. And I can’t remember it.   I can say this — I’ve come to believe that the core work of The … Continued

Dealing with anger in a healthy way has been a major area of growth for me over the last decade or more. Much of my life was spent stuffing anger only for it to come out sideways and hurting the people closest to me. One of the things I have learned is that anger often … Continued

  Today I’d like to give you some tips on how to handle anger the Christian way. Now, sometimes we all get angry. But as Christians, anger represents a special challenge because we’re told in Ephesians 4:31 to … “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of … Continued