I’d like to share with you a way of thinking “blocks” and “problems” that has given me great peace, even during difficult times in my life.  I think you’ll benefit from this way of thinking, too. It all started one day while I was talking to my friend Ellen. I mentioned to her that I … Continued

  “You won the lottery!” Those were my surgeon’s words during my surgical follow-up visit after my emergency appendectomy.   What lottery? What are you talking about? I tried making sense of what he was communicating.   My confused look gave me away. He continued, “Your appendix was acute. “   I asked, “How cute … Continued

“You were delivered to the wrong address.” You were intended to be delivered into a perfect world where you didn’t have to work, where all was provided for you and you experienced no pain. Unfortunately, that’s not the world you’re living in, though.   Instead, you’re living in a world where you lose a job, … Continued

Most of us were taught from a young age that it’s good to be responsible. At its core, being responsible means that you are accountable for your actions. In other words, you’re in control of how you act and behave.   Outside My Control Now obviously, there are sometimes external events that happen which are … Continued

Editor’s Note: Last week, Walter Mendenhall wrote about his personal woundedness as a child of divorce and how The Crucible Project has been instrumental in his healing. This week, Walter writes from a child’s perspective and offers tips for families who are currently navigating divorce.   Throughout my early childhood, I witnessed the erosion of … Continued

What affected me most about my parents’ divorce and all the circumstances surrounding it were the feelings of unworthiness I suffered. Since I was a child — and well into adulthood — I have had to deal with the painful emotion, however misplaced and inaccurate, of being unworthy of love.   This led to self-sabotage … Continued

  “Attitude reflect leadership … Captain.”  That phrase haunts me.  The phrase comes from the movie Remember the Titans.  The movie is based upon a story of a high school football team in the 1960s in a school that is integrating due to desegregation.   The scene is a heated conversation between a senior team … Continued

  I’m sure I’m not alone in this, but with all the books out there on leadership, very little surprises me when I pick up the latest best-seller. Seems like every author just rehashes the same old formulas.   Happily I’ve been reading a book recently that actually covers some new territory. It’s not that … Continued

  In October of 1995, there was a bit of a problem between a U.S. naval ship and Canadian authorities off the coast of Newfoundland. I came across this actual transcript of a radio conversation: U.S. ship—“Please divert your course .5 degrees to the south to avoid a collision.” Canadian reply—“Recommend you divert your course … Continued

  When I began writing this piece, I had fully intended to write about something completely different than the “D” word. But I made a commitment this year to write more openly about a struggle I’ve had for most of my adult life. And more specifically, to write about hope and survival.   In 2004, … Continued