Excerpt from Book “Don’t Be the Exception, CHANGE THE RULE!”   It was the beginning of the third quarter and I was the upback on the kickoff return team. Rarely, did the opposing team kick the ball to me. But as I saw the ball in the air, I noticed it was headed directly … Continued

  There are three rules in dysfunctional family systems: 1. Don’t talk. 2. Don’t trust. 3. Don’t feel. We learn at an early age not to talk about family problems. We keep them to ourselves either because we are embarrassed about what’s going on or because we’re convinced no one could possibly relate. So we … Continued

    “It’s so frustrating. I try to help her, but she just won’t listen.”   My friend called to confide in me about a conversation he’d had with his wife earlier that day. Some drama about a problem she had with a co-worker.   “It’s the same stupid thing over and over. She’s intimidated … Continued

  Down this lonely path I walk, Why won’t these men talk? Descending into darkness deep, My soul, just begs to weep.   Scared of what lies ahead, So many voices in my head. Walls built to protect my pain, “Oh Lord, what will this gain?”   “See that man!” they say, Just more games … Continued

  Life is full of seasons. Nature reminds us of this multiple times a year. As we enter into fall and already see the first signs of winter upon us, I am reminded again that there is a season for everything. With this constant physical reminder from nature, you would think we would be better … Continued

  I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. …” Romans 7: 15   I thought I could get away with it. But, she busted me. Cold.   I took my daughter on a date recently. Through tears at a … Continued

One of the practices that Devra (my wife of 29 years) and I do almost every day to connect at the heart level is to “check in” with each other. Checking in with each other is a way to talk about all the things that are going on “out there” so that we can create … Continued

  I’ve had some legitimate, real-life enemies in my life lately. I believe they are actively working against my good will. It feels like antagonistic forces that are convicted to work against me. A few of them are even church people.   Counseling experts would call these “micro-aggressions.” They’re the subtle, small, offenses against a … Continued

Conor: Your stories never made sense to me. The Monster: Because humans are complicated beasts. You believe comforting lies, while knowing full well the painful truth that makes those lies necessary. In the end, Conor, it is not important what you think. It is only important what you do. Conor: So what do I do? … Continued

  I have my fair share of problems: Finances are really tight. I just spent a lot of money on a new patio. And now my air conditioner is out. Family life seems scattered more than it does sacred. I don’t get to see my kids as much as I’d like. And when I do, … Continued