The other night, I struggled to get to sleep. I was tossing and turning, nervous about an upcoming meeting at work. I knew the meeting was likely to be contentious, and I would have to step into my discomfort and set a boundary if I was going to get what I wanted.  Hence, the struggle … Continued

An often overlooked aspect of leadership are the two ideas of the advancing of leaders and succession.  Good organizations have leader training and succession plans.  In fact, some companies must have a succession plan in place in order to receive certain certifications and or accreditation.  I have noticed among my coaching clients that several have … Continued

It seemed so obvious. Recently, I was reading a book that noted that many new Christians enter the church having long-standing impaired maturity and relational skills. The author then wrote, “Simple conversion does not provide the missing brain skills they need for healthy relationships, any more than salvation will make them suddenly literate.” I had … Continued

One of our most basic human needs is to love and be loved. I have never had a problem with that first part. I have always given love freely. But I still struggle being on the receiving end of love. There is something about being loved that just doesn’t seem right. In my recovery journey, … Continued

You never have to ask a 5-year old boy how his day was. Just look down at his feet. Yesterday, I spent all evening with my grandson. Our time was all the more precious because tomorrow he’s moving. He’ll be 12 hours away from us. For four years, my wife and I have had almost … Continued

I have come to find the use of rituals to be powerful in my life. I didn’t set out to form rituals and it wasn’t until a friend used the word to describe some activities I do that I even recognized them as such. In hindsight, it makes sense. My life journey has exposed me … Continued

When we want to change, grow, and develop, there are a couple of ways that we can get at it. I try so many different things, sticking with none, that I am all over the place and not finding any traction. It helps to have a simple (but not easy) model. In just three steps: … Continued

In Disney’s, The Lion King, the filmmaker vividly captures the emotion of The Hero’s Journey. Simba’s carefree, happy childhood is abruptly interrupted with a crisis. For him, it was the tragic death of his father, Mufasa. His uncle, Scar, who orchestrated his brother’s death, convinces Simba that he is to blame for his father’s death. … Continued

This summer, I finally made time to hike the coastal Redwoods. For me, it was a bucket list item.  They were majestic and awe-inspiring, completely exceeding my expectations.  And while the lesson “stand with other Redwoods” was certainly reinforced, as I walked and listened, the Redwoods taught or reminded me of several other lessons. I … Continued

In a recent meeting, I heard a man admit that he had failed to do something to which he had committed and added, “I’m selfish.” Inside, I said to myself, “I don’t buy it. I don’t think men are selfish.” This is similar—I hear men report that they are lazy and I doubt it. I … Continued