As we head into Father’s Day weekend, I’d submit that the best gift isn’t what us fathers or father figures receive … a tie, round of golf or BBQ set.  The best gift is what we give our daughters, sons, wives and loved ones. Specifically, a blessing. Here’s the backstory on how I’ve recently come … Continued

When I got “C”s on my report cards, my dad would say, “Did you try your best? Yes? Well then, okay … No problem.” My mom would ground me for a month if I got a B or lower.   As I’ve matured, I’ve come to see how supportive and loving my dad was and … Continued

I have realized that my focus on becoming a better man has been all about admitting the truth about the man I had been: Callous Self-absorbed Addictive Personality Narcissistic A Liar   And while I check in with good men on a regular basis — often times I find myself seeing the Shadow more than … Continued

  One of the most painful and powerful discoveries in my almost 10-year transformation journey with The Crucible Project is that I have created the world that I live in.  Anytime I experience pain or find myself doing the things I do not want to do, it is because I am making choices at some … Continued

  I woke up this morning dreaming. Not a sleeping dream, but the kind that paints a picture of the future. If you google “dream” there is no shortage of quotes from famous people and some not so famous, about dreams. “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” … Continued

When you grow up broke, you really never know that you are broke.  Or better yet,  how broke you are. You just figure out ways to feel less and less broke. It is all about perspective and creative imagination so you don’t get so discouraged when you are young.   When I was growing up … Continued

A few weeks ago, I passed a charred barren field just minutes from my home. It surprised me because normally it is a beautiful, lush field that reminds me of scenes in The Sound of Music. In the past, God has met me here often as I’ve prayed, reflected, and meditated.   Although I’ve visited … Continued

We have all heard the serenity prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Being able to differentiate between the things that are up to us and the things that are not up to us is certainly … Continued

  The Male Mogul Initiative (MMI) was birthed after a conversation I had with a student on the west side of Chicago. This student was a star basketball player, had an academic scholarship to go to college, and was well-respected amongst his peers. Despite all these great things, this student sold drugs to support his … Continued

I have heard for years that managed conflict creates growth.  I have witnessed this as a fact.  I have been in or around many conflicts and in most cases, when the conflict is appropriately handled, all parties involved grow.   In our groups and weekend staff trainings, many times we use the phrase, “Growth Edge.” … Continued