The other night, I struggled to get to sleep. I was tossing and turning, nervous about an upcoming meeting at work. I knew the meeting was likely to be contentious, and I would have to step into my discomfort and set a boundary if I was going to get what I wanted.  Hence, the struggle … Continued

It seemed so obvious. Recently, I was reading a book that noted that many new Christians enter the church having long-standing impaired maturity and relational skills. The author then wrote, “Simple conversion does not provide the missing brain skills they need for healthy relationships, any more than salvation will make them suddenly literate.” I had … Continued

When we want to change, grow, and develop, there are a couple of ways that we can get at it. I try so many different things, sticking with none, that I am all over the place and not finding any traction. It helps to have a simple (but not easy) model. In just three steps: … Continued

When it comes to life, what half are you living in? Noted Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung popularized the notion of the two halves of life by saying “the first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego,” and “the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” Here’s how I’m thinking … Continued

We live in a “Now this” world.  In his book Amusing Ourselves to Death, Neil Postman points to this thought as he references our nightly news.  The anchor describes a bus full of children going off a cliff and many are killed.  We have 30 seconds or less to consider this tragedy and then, “Now … Continued

If you’re like me, you could put together a list of people who over the years have disappointed you. On your list may be superficial interactions like a store clerk who was rude, a neighbor who wouldn’t return borrowed tools or a friend who drifted away over the years. It may also include those who … Continued

When I was a toddler, my mother taught me a little bedtime prayer: Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake I pray the Lord my soul to take. I’m still not sure what it was about the thought of dying in the middle … Continued

I Recently, I was a part of a circle of men where a man was praying for the group.  He was thanking God for making us “better” men, which took me aback somewhat. Surprised by my reaction, I thought to myself “Better?  What does that even mean?” “It’s not about being better,”   I asked myself. … Continued

I like my comfort. I don’t like admitting that, but it is true. I literally work to keep things comfortable. I feel like there is some irony there … Maybe there’s nothing wrong with being comfortable. But, you might have picked up that I hold a judgment of myself for living in and working for … Continued

Do you want to be easily authentic in your life? I want you to effortlessly be able to be authentic about who you really are and what you want —unambiguously and without apology or difficulty. And that kind of easy authenticity comes automatically when you have a healthy awareness of your own mortality. Put another … Continued