When you grow up broke, you really never know that you are broke.  Or better yet,  how broke you are. You just figure out ways to feel less and less broke. It is all about perspective and creative imagination so you don’t get so discouraged when you are young.   When I was growing up … Continued

  I recently read about a group therapy researcher who had non-patients he was training (from a variety of helping professions) gather in groups and then complete a “top-secret” assignment. It was the same task he gave patients in his groups to perform. He asked trainees to write down on a slip of paper, anonymously, … Continued

Mar

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Background: The past couple of months have been some of the most difficult that I can recall for a number of brothers. Within my own soul group, I have seen merciless attacks from Satan against myself and my brothers. Our families, our kids, and our jobs have all been attacked. My resolve is steadfast because … Continued

  My wife is my best friend and has a beautiful heart, so when she asked me to help with a women’s conference, I said, “yes”. Honestly, I said it with regret. Hanging out at a women’s conference was not my idea of “fun”, but I showed up.   So, did God. Here’s what I … Continued

  Down this lonely path I walk, Why won’t these men talk? Descending into darkness deep, My soul, just begs to weep.   Scared of what lies ahead, So many voices in my head. Walls built to protect my pain, “Oh Lord, what will this gain?”   “See that man!” they say, Just more games … Continued

Jul

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I’ve had a problem for several decades around self-care. I have read several Christian and secular books, worked through materials from international coaching experts, and implemented a number of strategies to take care of myself by building Sabbath rest into my schedule. Living in my mission to facilitate change in individuals and relationships brought joy … Continued

Editor’s Note: This is the first in a five-part series that takes a scientific approach to study the value and impact The Crucible Project has had on men who are thirsty to live with more integrity, grace and courage. It is based on work of Crucible brother Ryan Poling, a doctoral candidate in clinical psychology. … Continued

    The Crucible Project is one of the most authentic places I have ever experienced … where men of color like me can get a glimpse of what co-equal relationships with our white brothers can look and feel like. You see, even today there are certain injustices that African-American men face on a relatively … Continued

  I just don’t know how to act or be around someone who is in emotional stress such as deep anger, sadness, or scare.  As a kid, I wasn’t taught or modeled how to deal with tough emotions.   Normally when my wife is feeling strong emotions I listen but my reaction is to let the … Continued

  “I’m fine,” I lied, as my friend asked me how I was doing. The truth was that I was struggling and holding back tears. But I didn’t tell my friend that. Instead, I gave a brief run-down about how things were going with my writing, my relationships and my church stuff. We ended the … Continued