What affected me most about my parents’ divorce and all the circumstances surrounding it were the feelings of unworthiness I suffered. Since I was a child — and well into adulthood — I have had to deal with the painful emotion, however misplaced and inaccurate, of being unworthy of love.   This led to self-sabotage … Continued

  When I began writing this piece, I had fully intended to write about something completely different than the “D” word. But I made a commitment this year to write more openly about a struggle I’ve had for most of my adult life. And more specifically, to write about hope and survival.   In 2004, … Continued

Father Richard Rohr, one of my favorite teachers, pointed to this in one of his daily meditations: “Community is the most neglected and probably the most difficult ingredient for us to hold to in the U.S. context. And for the most obvious of reasons — we have come to worship at the altar of independence, … Continued

I have realized that my focus on becoming a better man has been all about admitting the truth about the man I had been: Callous Self-absorbed Addictive Personality Narcissistic A Liar   And while I check in with good men on a regular basis — often times I find myself seeing the Shadow more than … Continued

When you grow up broke, you really never know that you are broke.  Or better yet,  how broke you are. You just figure out ways to feel less and less broke. It is all about perspective and creative imagination so you don’t get so discouraged when you are young.   When I was growing up … Continued

  I recently read about a group therapy researcher who had non-patients he was training (from a variety of helping professions) gather in groups and then complete a “top-secret” assignment. It was the same task he gave patients in his groups to perform. He asked trainees to write down on a slip of paper, anonymously, … Continued

Mar

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Background: The past couple of months have been some of the most difficult that I can recall for a number of brothers. Within my own soul group, I have seen merciless attacks from Satan against myself and my brothers. Our families, our kids, and our jobs have all been attacked. My resolve is steadfast because … Continued

  My wife is my best friend and has a beautiful heart, so when she asked me to help with a women’s conference, I said, “yes”. Honestly, I said it with regret. Hanging out at a women’s conference was not my idea of “fun”, but I showed up.   So, did God. Here’s what I … Continued

  Down this lonely path I walk, Why won’t these men talk? Descending into darkness deep, My soul, just begs to weep.   Scared of what lies ahead, So many voices in my head. Walls built to protect my pain, “Oh Lord, what will this gain?”   “See that man!” they say, Just more games … Continued

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I’ve had a problem for several decades around self-care. I have read several Christian and secular books, worked through materials from international coaching experts, and implemented a number of strategies to take care of myself by building Sabbath rest into my schedule. Living in my mission to facilitate change in individuals and relationships brought joy … Continued