This summer, I finally made time to hike the coastal Redwoods. For me, it was a bucket list item.  They were majestic and awe-inspiring, completely exceeding my expectations.  And while the lesson “stand with other Redwoods” was certainly reinforced, as I walked and listened, the Redwoods taught or reminded me of several other lessons. I … Continued

In a recent meeting, I heard a man admit that he had failed to do something to which he had committed and added, “I’m selfish.” Inside, I said to myself, “I don’t buy it. I don’t think men are selfish.” This is similar—I hear men report that they are lazy and I doubt it. I … Continued

When it comes to life, what half are you living in? Noted Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung popularized the notion of the two halves of life by saying “the first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego,” and “the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” Here’s how I’m thinking … Continued

I recently saw the movie “A Star Is Born” (Warning: Spoilers ahead) and it made a big impact on me. The film focuses on the relationship between two musicians: A rock star named Jackson Maine and his wife Alli, whom he discovers and encourages to pursue her talents and dreams. Tortured Soul Jackson is a … Continued

We live in a “Now this” world.  In his book Amusing Ourselves to Death, Neil Postman points to this thought as he references our nightly news.  The anchor describes a bus full of children going off a cliff and many are killed.  We have 30 seconds or less to consider this tragedy and then, “Now … Continued

If you’re like me, you could put together a list of people who over the years have disappointed you. On your list may be superficial interactions like a store clerk who was rude, a neighbor who wouldn’t return borrowed tools or a friend who drifted away over the years. It may also include those who … Continued

I Recently, I was a part of a circle of men where a man was praying for the group.  He was thanking God for making us “better” men, which took me aback somewhat. Surprised by my reaction, I thought to myself “Better?  What does that even mean?” “It’s not about being better,”   I asked myself. … Continued

I like my comfort. I don’t like admitting that, but it is true. I literally work to keep things comfortable. I feel like there is some irony there … Maybe there’s nothing wrong with being comfortable. But, you might have picked up that I hold a judgment of myself for living in and working for … Continued

Several weeks ago a man complained to me about how negative his group is — men constantly checking in sad, angry and scared, working on places where they are unhappy with their lives. At first, I resisted this man’s viewpoint and found myself saying, “Yeah, but these men are simply being honest.” Men’s honesty is … Continued

How busy are you right now? Yes … right now. Too busy to read this post? Too busy to write that email? Too busy to address that conflict? Too busy to have the conversation in the hall unless you can be walking while you have it? Too busy to buy that sympathy card? Too busy … Continued