When trying to live a good life and have a positive attitude, we often reflect on our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. All three are important and have a huge impact on how we engage in our day-to-day life.  Hard to Shift Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors Sometimes our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are hard to shift. … Continued

“I don’t think it helps to drudge up the past. I try to look forward, not backward.” The woman speaking was pleasant, engaging and a strong Christian. I had asked her about some very traumatic experiences she had had 20 years earlier while she was a young mom married to an abusive husband. She continued. … Continued

A couple weekends ago I went on my own self-led weekend sabbatical.  I wasn’t totally sure of my plan — or even my final goal of my getaway — but come Friday evening I took off.  With my cell phone off and an empty house in Indiana awaiting me, my journey began. My intent for … Continued

It is amazing to consider how it is that God made us to be so attracted to people who are different from us. In fact, most of our early attraction includes a decision to find people who are not like the parts of ourselves we least like. Back in the beginning of your relationship, the … Continued

In our work, we hear the word “blessing” thrown around a lot.  So let’s talk about blessing.  Blessing is love — but love applied in a very specific way. Blessing is love and unconditional positive regard, given to someone (or part of someone) who hasn’t been experiencing it. And as small as that might sound, … Continued

“God comes to you disguised as your life,” says Paula D’Arcy, an author, retreat leader, speaker, playwright, and former psychotherapist. When I first read this, I was puzzled. I wasn’t sure what she meant. And yet I was intrigued and kept pondering her thought. In Luke 7, that lonely widow from the tiny village of … Continued

“No man is a leader until his appointment is approved by the people that he leads.”  John Maxwell How often do we hear someone complain that teens lack respect? There is an expectation that they should listen to and respect us because we are adults. We draw from our own experience. When we were younger, … Continued

I remember feeling my heart sink when I saw him come through the door. My wife and I were at a Christmas gathering at our church. My brother spotted me and made his way to our table. He didn’t have to say anything. I knew what had happened by the look on his face. My … Continued

  I have the privilege of running a ministry that is the largest provider of counseling services to sex traffic survivors in the greater Houston area. Over the years I have met many survivors we serve.  Recently, an alumni of our program popped into the office to catch up with us. As she shared her … Continued

  A few years ago, I learned of an ancient personality system known as the Enneagram with roots dating back as far as 3,000 years ago. Over the last eight months, I’ve been doing what I would call a deep dive into learning and understanding the Enneagram.     Now, If you talk to anyone … Continued