“God comes to you disguised as your life,” says Paula D’Arcy, an author, retreat leader, speaker, playwright, and former psychotherapist. When I first read this, I was puzzled. I wasn’t sure what she meant. And yet I was intrigued and kept pondering her thought. In Luke 7, that lonely widow from the tiny village of … Continued

“You were delivered to the wrong address.” You were intended to be delivered into a perfect world where you didn’t have to work, where all was provided for you and you experienced no pain. Unfortunately, that’s not the world you’re living in, though.   Instead, you’re living in a world where you lose a job, … Continued

As we head into Father’s Day weekend, I’d submit that the best gift isn’t what us fathers or father figures receive … a tie, round of golf or BBQ set.  The best gift is what we give our daughters, sons, wives and loved ones. Specifically, a blessing. Here’s the backstory on how I’ve recently come … Continued

We have all heard the serenity prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Being able to differentiate between the things that are up to us and the things that are not up to us is certainly … Continued

  “True surrender, however, is something entirely different. It does not mean to passively put up with whatever situation you find yourself in and to do nothing about it. Nor does it mean to cease making plans or initiating positive action. Surrender is the simple but profound wisdom of yielding to rather than opposing the … Continued

  THE BROKEN STATE OF MASCULINITY   More and more boys are confused about what it means to be a man as they are raised without a man consistently in their lives.  Those with fathers or father-figures present too frequently experience uninvolved, emotionally-absent men or tyrant, dictator fathers whom they never want to emulate.   … Continued

  Remember Hermey the Elf, from the Rank & Bass stop-motion classic Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer?   He’s a misfit who doesn’t want to make toys. He wants to be a dentist. He also declares to Rudolph that he wants to be independent.   One recent week in my life – I was told … Continued

    For a time, I believed it was easier to pretend that I was always happy and excited. After all, it made me more likeable and acceptable to others. If ever I thought anger was not an issue in my life, the exercises from my initial weekend spoke volumes that both anger and sadness … Continued

  There are three rules in dysfunctional family systems: 1. Don’t talk. 2. Don’t trust. 3. Don’t feel. We learn at an early age not to talk about family problems. We keep them to ourselves either because we are embarrassed about what’s going on or because we’re convinced no one could possibly relate. So we … Continued

    “It’s so frustrating. I try to help her, but she just won’t listen.”   My friend called to confide in me about a conversation he’d had with his wife earlier that day. Some drama about a problem she had with a co-worker.   “It’s the same stupid thing over and over. She’s intimidated … Continued