When I was growing up, I was taught the importance of forgiveness. I can sum up what I believed as: I was supposed to ask for forgiveness. I was supposed to forgive others (especially those I am close to, like family). Jesus made it so I could be forgiven if I believed and asked. Forgiveness was … Continued

Coming out of my recent 50th high school reunion, I kept thinking of who I was in those years: Always so carefully dressed with a button-down, collared, dress shirt. Trim slacks. My Bass Weejun loafers. Perfect.   Looking back, I understand now that I was always hiding the younger man who was embarrassed about every … Continued

I’d like to share with you a way of thinking “blocks” and “problems” that has given me great peace, even during difficult times in my life.  I think you’ll benefit from this way of thinking, too. It all started one day while I was talking to my friend Ellen. I mentioned to her that I … Continued

  When I began writing this piece, I had fully intended to write about something completely different than the “D” word. But I made a commitment this year to write more openly about a struggle I’ve had for most of my adult life. And more specifically, to write about hope and survival.   In 2004, … Continued

  I woke up this morning dreaming. Not a sleeping dream, but the kind that paints a picture of the future. If you google “dream” there is no shortage of quotes from famous people and some not so famous, about dreams. “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” … Continued

A few weeks ago, I passed a charred barren field just minutes from my home. It surprised me because normally it is a beautiful, lush field that reminds me of scenes in The Sound of Music. In the past, God has met me here often as I’ve prayed, reflected, and meditated.   Although I’ve visited … Continued

  “True surrender, however, is something entirely different. It does not mean to passively put up with whatever situation you find yourself in and to do nothing about it. Nor does it mean to cease making plans or initiating positive action. Surrender is the simple but profound wisdom of yielding to rather than opposing the … Continued

  THE BROKEN STATE OF MASCULINITY   More and more boys are confused about what it means to be a man as they are raised without a man consistently in their lives.  Those with fathers or father-figures present too frequently experience uninvolved, emotionally-absent men or tyrant, dictator fathers whom they never want to emulate.   … Continued

  In 2003, a friend of mine was in New York when the “great Northeast blackout” hit. More than 50 million people lost power from eight states, including all the way up to Ontario, Canada. My friend and his bride were at the JFK airport when everything fell apart. An announcement came over the airport … Continued

  There are many attributes to personal growth.  Awareness, setting goals, challenges, experiences, etc. are some of the attributes to our personal growth. As we come to the close of another year, consider reflection as another aspect of growth. Reflection is valuable in that we are able to evaluate and measure what we set out … Continued