As we head into Father’s Day weekend, I’d submit that the best gift isn’t what us fathers or father figures receive … a tie, round of golf or BBQ set.  The best gift is what we give our daughters, sons, wives and loved ones. Specifically, a blessing. Here’s the backstory on how I’ve recently come … Continued

When I got “C”s on my report cards, my dad would say, “Did you try your best? Yes? Well then, okay … No problem.” My mom would ground me for a month if I got a B or lower.   As I’ve matured, I’ve come to see how supportive and loving my dad was and … Continued

  Remember Hermey the Elf, from the Rank & Bass stop-motion classic Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer?   He’s a misfit who doesn’t want to make toys. He wants to be a dentist. He also declares to Rudolph that he wants to be independent.   One recent week in my life – I was told … Continued

How does God see you?  The answers to that question will vary greatly.  Some people will give a Biblical answer based on the Grace we receive.  Some will answer from a place of shame and feel God is always ready to point out flaws.  Some believe that as long as they are living “right” and … Continued

  Editor’s note: The following post is an excerpt from Dan’s book, When Father is a Bad Word   Father. For some, that is a word that conjures up feelings of warmth, security, and pride. For all too many others it is a word that triggers shame, pain, and anger. I have known first-hand the pain … Continued

  I was listening to a podcast the other day and heard something about how our brains work that blew me away. As a husband, father, son, brother and friend, hearing this made me realize all the more how thirsty the loved ones in my life really are for authentic blessing from me.   First, … Continued

Brett and I had the same work schedule. That means we also had the same workout schedule. Several times a week we ran into each other at the health club. We did the typical guy-talk thing. You know—news, weather, and sports. Nothing that would require too much vulnerability. We men don’t readily bare our souls … Continued

  More than three weeks have passed since the 2016 elections ended, and Donald Trump became President-Elect of the United States. And it has been a vitriol-fueled ride. Supporters from both sides of the election have experienced hate. Riots, violence, hate speech and protests continue. In January, Trump will inherit a country rumbling with unprecedented … Continued

  Every one of us has fears. Some of us are just afraid to admit it. It could be a physical fear, like the fear of heights, snakes, or spiders. It could be a psychological fear, like the fear of failure, rejection, or intimacy. But, if we’re honest, we all encounter things in our lives … Continued

I grew up in a home compromised by alcohol. Personal security was continually threatened. Our family never knew from one day to the next just what level of risk to expect when Dad came through the door. There were those “high alert” days when Dad stayed too long at Alex’s Tap after work. On those … Continued