THE BROKEN STATE OF MASCULINITY   More and more boys are confused about what it means to be a man as they are raised without a man consistently in their lives.  Those with fathers or father-figures present too frequently experience uninvolved, emotionally-absent men or tyrant, dictator fathers whom they never want to emulate.   … Continued

  I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. …” Romans 7: 15   I thought I could get away with it. But, she busted me. Cold.   I took my daughter on a date recently. Through tears at a … Continued

This month marks my eighth year of personal transformation with The Crucible Project community of Christian men.  Change is hard, but I can’t imagine how I could be where I am in my personal development without a community of authentic men around me.   Transformation Process Confusion In my personal journey, results have sometimes seemed … Continued

 Years ago at about the same time, two Christian men told me they were involved in extra-marital affairs. The men did not know each other, but each came to me for counsel. There were similarities in how they were dealing with it, but I especially noted some key differences. First, here’s what they had in common: Both … Continued

I’m eating lunch at a restaurant with a friend, enjoying the wonderful food and conversation. Out of the corner of my eye, there is something that alerts me. Sometimes it is what they are wearing … or not wearing.  Sometimes it is their gait or pace in their high-heeled shoes.  Sometimes it is something about … Continued

I am currently in the middle of moving to a new house. Our previous house was 53 years old and needed some updating. The new house, only a few miles away from the old one, is 18 years old with more space and nicer amenities. Most people would be excited about that; however, my response, … Continued

  I recently asked a woman who I deeply love to marry me. If you would have told me three years ago that I would be engaged — and who the woman would be — I would have laughed and offered a friendly wager of everything I had that this would not happen. This journey … Continued

  It hit me one morning recently … “THAT” is the one thing I would work on this year. THAT is the area of significant growth for me in 2016. (More on THAT in a minute.) I have never been a “New Year’s Resolution” guy. But in recent years I have tended to pick an … Continued

  Although the Christmas holiday season has come and gone, I’ve been thinking about a scene from one of my favorite holiday movies, Planes, Trains and Automobiles. The film was released in 1987. Steve Martin plays the role of Neal Page, a successful but buttoned-up marketing executive struggling to make it home for the holidays. In … Continued