Editor’s Note: Last week, Walter Mendenhall wrote about his personal woundedness as a child of divorce and how The Crucible Project has been instrumental in his healing. This week, Walter writes from a child’s perspective and offers tips for families who are currently navigating divorce.   Throughout my early childhood, I witnessed the erosion of … Continued

  “Attitude reflect leadership … Captain.”  That phrase haunts me.  The phrase comes from the movie Remember the Titans.  The movie is based upon a story of a high school football team in the 1960s in a school that is integrating due to desegregation.   The scene is a heated conversation between a senior team … Continued

  I’m sure I’m not alone in this, but with all the books out there on leadership, very little surprises me when I pick up the latest best-seller. Seems like every author just rehashes the same old formulas.   Happily I’ve been reading a book recently that actually covers some new territory. It’s not that … Continued

  The Male Mogul Initiative (MMI) was birthed after a conversation I had with a student on the west side of Chicago. This student was a star basketball player, had an academic scholarship to go to college, and was well-respected amongst his peers. Despite all these great things, this student sold drugs to support his … Continued

I have heard for years that managed conflict creates growth.  I have witnessed this as a fact.  I have been in or around many conflicts and in most cases, when the conflict is appropriately handled, all parties involved grow.   In our groups and weekend staff trainings, many times we use the phrase, “Growth Edge.” … Continued

  THE BROKEN STATE OF MASCULINITY   More and more boys are confused about what it means to be a man as they are raised without a man consistently in their lives.  Those with fathers or father-figures present too frequently experience uninvolved, emotionally-absent men or tyrant, dictator fathers whom they never want to emulate.   … Continued

  When I was thinking about my New Years Resolutions for the coming year, I noticed something: They were all about me. For example, I looked at my list this year: Eat healthy and get in better shape. Secure a book contract. Make my blog more successful. All about me. Take a look at your … Continued

  There are many attributes to personal growth.  Awareness, setting goals, challenges, experiences, etc. are some of the attributes to our personal growth. As we come to the close of another year, consider reflection as another aspect of growth. Reflection is valuable in that we are able to evaluate and measure what we set out … Continued

  I believe it is just human nature to want to fix someone’s problems.  I also believe that we are compelled to “fix” from a noble consideration of helping someone.  However, in our endeavor to help someone, we have lost a key component that is valuable to those we are helping.  The component is an … Continued

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I’ve had a problem for several decades around self-care. I have read several Christian and secular books, worked through materials from international coaching experts, and implemented a number of strategies to take care of myself by building Sabbath rest into my schedule. Living in my mission to facilitate change in individuals and relationships brought joy … Continued