It seemed so obvious. Recently, I was reading a book that noted that many new Christians enter the church having long-standing impaired maturity and relational skills. The author then wrote, “Simple conversion does not provide the missing brain skills they need for healthy relationships, any more than salvation will make them suddenly literate.” I had … Continued

One of our most basic human needs is to love and be loved. I have never had a problem with that first part. I have always given love freely. But I still struggle being on the receiving end of love. There is something about being loved that just doesn’t seem right. In my recovery journey, … Continued

I have come to find the use of rituals to be powerful in my life. I didn’t set out to form rituals and it wasn’t until a friend used the word to describe some activities I do that I even recognized them as such. In hindsight, it makes sense. My life journey has exposed me … Continued

When I was a toddler, my mother taught me a little bedtime prayer: Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake I pray the Lord my soul to take. I’m still not sure what it was about the thought of dying in the middle … Continued

A couple weekends ago I went on my own self-led weekend sabbatical.  I wasn’t totally sure of my plan — or even my final goal of my getaway — but come Friday evening I took off.  With my cell phone off and an empty house in Indiana awaiting me, my journey began. My intent for … Continued

A few weeks ago, I had to run an errand and drop off dry cleaning. I had all four of my kids in the car with me. I pulled into the lot and aimed my car between two parked cars on either side of me. No problemo. One of my sons came inside with me … Continued

  I have the privilege of running a ministry that is the largest provider of counseling services to sex traffic survivors in the greater Houston area. Over the years I have met many survivors we serve.  Recently, an alumni of our program popped into the office to catch up with us. As she shared her … Continued

When I was growing up, I was taught the importance of forgiveness. I can sum up what I believed as: I was supposed to ask for forgiveness. I was supposed to forgive others (especially those I am close to, like family). Jesus made it so I could be forgiven if I believed and asked. Forgiveness was … Continued

  Every day we make hundreds of choices. Some of them (e.g. what to eat for lunch) are relatively mundane. Others (e.g. letting go of destructive patterns of living) are potentially life-changing.   In my graduate school courses, I learned a counseling method designed to help addicts take steps toward recovery. Research shows that Motivational … Continued

  “You won the lottery!” Those were my surgeon’s words during my surgical follow-up visit after my emergency appendectomy.   What lottery? What are you talking about? I tried making sense of what he was communicating.   My confused look gave me away. He continued, “Your appendix was acute. “   I asked, “How cute … Continued