Years ago at about the same time, two Christian men told me they were involved in extra-marital affairs. The men did not know each other, but each came to me for counsel. There were similarities in how they were dealing with it, but I especially noted some key differences. First, here’s what they had in common: Both … Continued

  More than three weeks have passed since the 2016 elections ended, and Donald Trump became President-Elect of the United States. And it has been a vitriol-fueled ride. Supporters from both sides of the election have experienced hate. Riots, violence, hate speech and protests continue. In January, Trump will inherit a country rumbling with unprecedented … Continued

On a bright, sunny summer’s day, two youth league teams were playing a baseball game. In the top of the sixth inning, one of the visiting coaches noticed something odd. “Hey, wait a minute. The balls you’re pitching to us are all different from the ones used when you are up at bat! What’s going … Continued

Today, I am sick. I have a cold, a stupid cold. And it’s not respecting my schedule of things I need to get done. So today I want to talk briefly about men, illness, and their bodies.   And about how men respond to being sick by withdrawing themselves from God’s love and mercy. Have you ever … Continued

  Editor’s note: This blog entry is an excerpt from Dan Kuiper’s book, When Father is a Bad Word   The story is told about Frank Szymanski, a center for the Notre Dame football team, who in the 1940s was called as a witness in a civil suit in South Bend. “Are you on the Notre Dame … Continued

Leaders are flawed people who can do harm as well as good. We all have examples in our lives — maybe even from our own leadership — of leaders bringing both enormous benefit by what they do, as well as great embarrassment or even damage when they’ve lead poorly. All leaders must have power and trust. If those aren’t present, … Continued

Have you ever noticed that God isn’t a fan of straight lines in nature? Most objects in creation are irregular, curved, and winding. From plants to planets, rattlesnakes to rivers, grass to galaxies our world is “imperfect” geometrically speaking. There are patterns, to be sure, but things both alive and inanimate are wavy and often grow in … Continued

For most of my life I have struggled to live with integrity.  If living in integrity means living a virtuous and moral life, I believe I do fairly well at it.  If it means living a sinless life, I am a failure. Growing up in West Texas, I often heard the definition of integrity as, … Continued

  In Matthew 22, one of the experts of the Law asked Jesus, “What is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Right before that in Matthew 21, Jesus was in the Temple courts and had a series of interactions with religious leaders: Pharisees, Sadducees, law experts and Herodians. It is easy for us sit in … Continued

  Frustrated. Stressed. Tired. Overwhelmed. Unfulfilled. Sadly, these are the words many men—even committed, God-loving Christian men— would use to best describe their lives. But a frenetic, discontented, anxiety-laden lifestyle is polar opposite of God’s desire for us. The prophet Isaiah offers this imagery of what the Christian life is supposed to look like: But those who trust in the … Continued