Most of us were taught from a young age that it’s good to be responsible. At its core, being responsible means that you are accountable for your actions. In other words, you’re in control of how you act and behave.   Outside My Control Now obviously, there are sometimes external events that happen which are … Continued

One of the practices that Devra (my wife of 29 years) and I do almost every day to connect at the heart level is to “check in” with each other. Checking in with each other is a way to talk about all the things that are going on “out there” so that we can create … Continued

Marriage can bring many changes to which you and your partner will have to adjust, especially in the first year. Some of these changes are eagerly anticipated; others are surprises that may cause unhappiness or even fear. In at least one aspect, marriage is like football. In a close game, the winning team is usually … Continued

Dealing with anger in a healthy way has been a major area of growth for me over the last decade or more. Much of my life was spent stuffing anger only for it to come out sideways and hurting the people closest to me. One of the things I have learned is that anger often … Continued

  Editor’s note: The following post is an excerpt from Dan’s book, When Father is a Bad Word   Father. For some, that is a word that conjures up feelings of warmth, security, and pride. For all too many others it is a word that triggers shame, pain, and anger. I have known first-hand the pain … Continued

  Lately, I’m sore. Part of it is a physical sore that I can feel in my body. The other part is more of a spiritual and emotional soreness that I can feel in my soul. All over, I am being stretched or challenged in some way that’s beyond my comfort zone.  And all of … Continued